Real Men Need Guidance

The world today is a bewildering place for men.

In decades past, hard work and loyalty were all men needed to have stable careers and marriages. This simpler role has been replaced by a much more complex and confusing role. Dating, marriage, career and education have become mine fields for men. Here in America men usually do not have the tools necessary to lead a happy, successful life with deep and fulfilling relationships.

This state of affairs described my life as well. I was 35 and divorced. I had long since stopped drinking and fighting in the bars. I did not use drugs, or gamble. I never engaged in domestic abuse. I stayed in school, eventually earning a PhD from a tier 1 University. I paid my child support, yet my first son was 2.5 thousand miles away and I rarely saw him. I worked 70 hour weeks, but lived in abject poverty. All the houses on my street were bull-dozed except 3. The other 2 houses were crack houses.

To top it all off, I became the quintessential nice guy. I actually laid my coat over a puddle once so that my new GF would not get her shoes wet.

Two weeks later, she dumped me.

How did this happen?

I did everything I was supposed to do.

It was a long odyssey, but 18 years later my life is amazing. I have a wonderful wife who is a flexible giver. She works all day yet still cooks dinner for me. To be clear, I do not expect a woman to cook for me, but I will certainly eat if she does. She is 15 years younger than me and one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Everyone wonders how an old ugly guy like me got such a beautiful woman. She does not nag or complain. We have been together for 10 years and our relationship is stronger than ever. We have an amazing 8 year old son.

Material possessions do not define a high value man, and they are in no way as important as personal relationships, but I have owned 2 Porsches, 2 Mercedes, and one BMW. I live in a very nice house with all American made furniture and a boatload of high end electronics. I have come a long way since living next to a crack house.

How did I go from misery to happiness?

I started with a thorough analysis of the academic literature, searching for material on relationships and causes of divorce. I was already familiar with Charles Murray, Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, and literature on co-habitation as it was part of my formal training.  I found some very interesting results. Everyone knows that 50% of marriages end in divorce.  More importantly, more than two out of three divorces are filed by women. Finally, women do not divorce for the expected reasons. Domestic abuse, alcoholism, infidelity, abandonment etc. are only a tiny fraction of divorces.

The academic literature itself could not understand why women file. The most common reasons were “emotional incompatibility”, “growing apart,” “lack of intimacy and communication.”

However, the academic literature failed to understand what these findings meant.  Due to political correctness, they did not ask the right question: All the above are indicators that a woman has fallen out of love. When a woman loves you there is no emotional incompatibility, you do not grow apart, or lack intimacy and communication.  

Thus, the academic literature offers no solutions to this critical problem. I had to search elsewhere for an answer. As mentioned, I turned to the seduction community. I studied anything and everything. I spent a lot of time on the now closed MASF.  I was there long before Mystery had his reality show, and before Neil Straus (Style) wrote “The Game.” There were so many talented guys I cannot begin to list them. I owe them all an intellectual debt. A lot of my DHV material comes from Woodhaven, and my weeding out program incorporates ideas from Anti Dump.

Many will dismiss the seduction community as immature and misogynistic, but I have seen the techniques work time and again. And regarding misogyny, my program teaches men to be kind, tolerant and considerate to women. We always conduct ourselves as gentlemen, and we never take advantage of women.