Do you want to: 

• Find a high quality woman you love who loves you back
• Keep her in love with you
• Learn concrete tools to handle situations that used to baffle you
• Build a strong, healthy and attractive body
• Learn to defend yourself and the ones you love

             If so, I will show you how

My name is Dr. Sean Reed. I have been counseling men for more than 20 years. I am here to help you improve the quality of your relationships, life, and health. You will grow both mentally and physically. You will blast through barriers and sticking points to get what you want out of life.

I am passionate about helping others be successful. I was born in a dysfunctional family broken by drugs, alcohol, and violence. I developed a systematic program that lifted me up and out, and want to share my system with you.
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You will be a better man, a more valuable man. Follow my program and I will give you tools and structure to navigate life's challenges.

I will also teach you how to select and win the hearts of women who are pliable, loving givers, emotionally healthy and well suited as your partner in life. They will be competing for your affection.

A woman may be gorgeous, but that does not mean that she is mentally and emotionally suited for a relationship. I use a machine like system to weed out unsuitable women from the woman you want.

I was a PUG (Pick Up Guru) and can teach the art of seduction, but unlike the seduction community, we are looking for one high quality women for a long term relationship, not a one night encounter. Yes, you will get laid.....a lot, but that is a by product of the program, not its primary goal. 

I will give you concrete tools for managing relationships, and successful living. I create custom/ individualized systems, but the principles are universal.

My program has 2 main categories, physical culture and relationships.

25% of my program is devoted to body building; If you follow it and do the work you will build a superior physique.

25% is devoted to martial arts and self defense.

You will develop tremendous confidence from these activities. But first let’s look at relationships. Managing relationships is 50% of my program.

Relationships

Today, millions of men are baffled by the fairer sex. I will teach you how to manage relationships with women by keeping them in love with you. It sounds simple, but it is not easy. Half of all marriages end in divorce, and more than two thirds of divorces are filed by women. Of the marriages that do survive divorce; many are marriages in name only: They are not happy unions where wives are deeply in love with their husbands. 

Two of the main problems stem from the fact that men do not understand how women communicate and keep score. They communicate and keep score differently. Furthermore, women keep score constantly. It never stops, and most men do not understand this fact. They don’t see that they are losing one or two love points daily. They only know that she is arguing with him every day, she is overly critical and nags incessantly. These are signs that she is falling out of love.

You MUST identify these signs and tests when they are happening, and respond correctly. If you get angry, argue with her, you fail the test. If you stay calm, rational, and set boundaries you pass these tests. By doing so your woman will love you a little bit more each day. When a high quality woman is deeply in love with you she will make your life easier.  She won’t argue, nag or disrespect you.

I will teach you how to recognize and respond to these signs. I will teach you the small but critical things you must do to keep her in love.
For those of you who are single, I will show you how to find a high quality woman and get her to fall in love with you.

My core principles are universal to the human condition and based upon widely supported paradigms in evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, rational actor modeling, behavioral science, 12 step programs, and the seduction community.

The ultimate goal is to build strong, deep, and loving relationship with a high quality woman who will mold herself to your world. You will also learn to manage the other important relationships in your life.

While my core principles are universal, my system implements a methodology that will give you highly detailed instructions specifically designed for your individual needs.

We will build upon your individual strengths, and shore up your weak points. The interpersonal skill set I will teach you is not limited to women. I will give you tools to deal with other people. If you use them most of your conflicts with other people will disappear. 


Managing your emotions and behavior are not easy tasks. They require hard work and a well thought out blueprint for success. You will learn that you cannot control women, people, places or the world. The only thing you can control is YOURSELF, your emotions, and the way you react to the world.  Once you build your mind, body, and spirit, once you become a high performance man who knows how to manage his relationships, the things you want in life will come easily for you.  

Real Men Need Guidance

The world today is a bewildering place for men.

In decades past, hard work and loyalty were all men needed to have stable careers and marriages. This simpler role has been replaced by a much more complex and confusing role. Dating, marriage, career and education have become mine fields for men. Here in America men usually do not have the tools necessary to lead a happy, successful life with deep and fulfilling relationships.

This state of affairs described my life as well. I was 35 and divorced. I had long since stopped drinking and fighting in the bars. I did not use drugs, or gamble. I never engaged in domestic abuse. I stayed in school, eventually earning a PhD from a tier 1 University. I paid my child support, yet my first son was 2.5 thousand miles away and I rarely saw him. I worked 70 hour weeks, but lived in abject poverty. All the houses on my street were bull-dozed except 3. The other 2 houses were crack houses.

To top it all off, I became the quintessential nice guy. I actually laid my coat over a puddle once so that my new GF would not get her shoes wet.

Two weeks later, she dumped me.

How did this happen?

I did everything I was supposed to do.

It was a long odyssey, but 18 years later my life is amazing. I have a wonderful wife who is a flexible giver. She works all day yet still cooks dinner for me. To be clear, I do not expect a woman to cook for me, but I will certainly eat if she does. She is 15 years younger than me and one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Everyone wonders how an old ugly guy like me got such a beautiful woman. She does not nag or complain. We have been together for 10 years and our relationship is stronger than ever. We have an amazing 8 year old son.

Material possessions do not define a high value man, and they are in no way as important as personal relationships, but I have owned 2 Porsches, 2 Mercedes, and one BMW. I live in a very nice house with all American made furniture and a boatload of high end electronics. I have come a long way since living next to a crack house.

How did I go from misery to happiness?

I started with a thorough analysis of the academic literature, searching for material on relationships and causes of divorce. I was already familiar with Charles Murray, Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, and literature on co-habitation as it was part of my formal training.  I found some very interesting results. Everyone knows that 50% of marriages end in divorce.  More importantly, more than two out of three divorces are filed by women. Finally, women do not divorce for the expected reasons. Domestic abuse, alcoholism, infidelity, abandonment etc. are only a tiny fraction of divorces.

The academic literature itself could not understand why women file. The most common reasons were “emotional incompatibility”, “growing apart,” “lack of intimacy and communication.”

However, the academic literature failed to understand what these findings meant.  Due to political correctness, they did not ask the right question: All the above are indicators that a woman has fallen out of love. When a woman loves you there is no emotional incompatibility, you do not grow apart, or lack intimacy and communication.  

Thus, the academic literature offers no solutions to this critical problem. I had to search elsewhere for an answer. As mentioned, I turned to the seduction community. I studied anything and everything. I spent a lot of time on the now closed MASF.  I was there long before Mystery had his reality show, and before Neil Straus (Style) wrote “The Game.” There were so many talented guys I cannot begin to list them. I owe them all an intellectual debt. A lot of my DHV material comes from Woodhaven, and my weeding out program incorporates ideas from Anti Dump.

Many will dismiss the seduction community as immature and misogynistic, but I have seen the techniques work time and again. And regarding misogyny, my program teaches men to be kind, tolerant and considerate to women. We always conduct ourselves as gentlemen, and we never take advantage of women.

 

Tools

Tools

I received an email the other day from Aaron Samuels. He is a doctoral student at UCLA. He is a very smart guy, but as I have said before intelligence can go out the door once emotions start kicking in.

He asked "what are these concrete tools you promote?" What do you mean by "spirituality?" "I am Jewish, are you promoting religion?"

No, while I am a Christian, I promote spirituality, not religion. If you belong to a religion, that is good. You already have a higher power/God. But it is most certainly not a requirement.

However, I DO think that humans are physical beings having a spiritual experience. Our life's are so much better if we can turn things over to a higher power.

There was a time when I tried to play God. I had a plan and if only the world would get with my plan all would be good. I would work harder and harder, trying to control everything. But no one would get with my plan...it is no wonder I turned to drink.

I had to let go

I realized I could not run the show, I was an actor, not a director. I could not change the world, only myself, and the way I reacted to the world.

This view applied to women as well. I can't control them.

Women, the world, other people, places, and things. They are above my pay grade.

However I CAN change me. I can change the way I respond.

I can be on a date, I can be a gentlemen, I can be a challenge. I can limit discussion of my past girl friends. I can not ask her out for another date while on a date. I can be fun and funny. I can keep the date short. I can wait 3 days to call, not text (unless she texts me).

If she does text me I avoid back and forth and set the next date. She might wonder "why doesn't he text back and forth like all the other guys?" She may even ask you that question and you respond "I am just so darn busy, if you want to talk to me beautiful it has to be face to face."

I let go and turn all these things over. For those of you who do not have a higher power, try this: Create a "God of Dating," GD.

GD has good intentions for you. You just had the best date of your life with a gal you are crazy about. Put the crazy away, and turn it over to GD. Let him worry about her over the next 3 days. Focus your energies on something else. You are not running the show anymore. Let it Go. 

You only call the next day if you had sex with her.

We stick to the plan with ALL women. We treat them all the same, we adhere to the same principles.

In my program, you will constantly be hustling for phone numbers, and be dating 2-3 women (called a rotation) until the one you want asks you for exclusivity. When you think you found the one, you keep hustling other women until she asks for exclusivity. Then, and only then do you stop seeing others.

This tool prevents you from calling her to much, dating her multiple times per week, spending too much time on dates, obsessing over her. Focus on other women, focus on work, school, training.

I use another tool, and this tool is for everyone, not just in my interactions with women. Any tool I use to be less selfish is automatically a spiritual tool, in my book.

I try and put myself in the shoes of others. Lets say I am on my way to work. 3 lanes are merging into 2. I put my window down to ask a guy if I can merge in. He speeds up and cuts me off.

My first instinct is to get out and fight. Fortunately I do not do so, instead I put myself in his place. He did not cut me off because he hates me....he did so because he is late to work. His boss said he would be fired if he were late again.

Or, he is divorced and his wife has custody of his daughter. He sees her once a week. She said if he were late again he would have to come back next week. 

Once I understand, it makes things so much easier and simple. The next car lets me in and I will be a grand total of 20 seconds later.

Is it really worth it to fight over 20 seconds?

Another tool has to do with communication with someone you have been with for a while. We saw in the academic literature that women often picked "lack of communication," or "grown apart" as the reason they filed for divorce. This problem is very easy to solve if you are smart and disciplined.

WHEN WOMEN WANT TO TALK ABOUT THEIR DAY YOU LISTEN

Women have very different communication styles. For example, I am talking to my friend. I discuss how the new stereo in my car killed the alternator (problem). "What should I do?" My friend says "go to Houston Alternator and have them build one" (solution).

When men communicate they go into problem solving mode.

Women HATE that unless they are specifically asking for a solution. Women communicate differently. Lets say your wife is a manager. When she comes home at the end of her day, if normal she will want to talk about here "day."

My wife always wants to talk about firing people. I hate that. But you know what? I listen. I nod my head and pretend I am interested. More importantly I DO NOT go into problem solving mode. My wife already knows what she is going to do. Talking is her way of going over a decision she has already made. All I have to do is feign interest (nod my head a few times) listen, and not go into problem solving mode.

Guys, doing this ^ is absolutely critical. She will love you for it. She will brag to her friends about the wonderful communication the two of you have. She will grow closer to you.

Finally, what if she calls at the end of the day? If you pick up, she will probably want to talk about her day. I am usually very busy at that time of the day with someone has given me their hard earned cash, and I am sure as heck not going to take a call. I have a speed text saying "with client." That way everyone is happy. 

Clean up your side of the street

Whenever you have a problem with someone else, you are, if normal, completely focused on what they did wrong. That is usually as far as the blame goes. "You wronged me...it is your fault...why are you doing this to me?"

The focus is always on the other person. Very rarely does someone step back, look at the problem, and try and see their own role in the matter.

Lets say you are having a disagreement with someone. You are completely focused upon what they did wrong. And in fact, even if we step back and take an objective look at the problem, we see that 70% of the problem is the other person. 30% is our fault. Thus, they are the problem.

I suggest that you try this approach: Clean up your 30%. It does not matter what they did, because we cannot control others. We only control ourselves.

When you do this ^ miracles happen. Very often, the other side rights themselves and the problem disappears.

Poof

What if the other side does not clean up their 70%?

That is OK. You cleaned your side, you have done everything you can. Therefore you let it go. Turn it over, it is not your problem anymore.